grinninfoole

In the past few days I have had cause to consider how people end relationships to others. I found myself reflecting that the pain of breaking up with a living boyfriend is similar to that of bidding farewell to a suddenly dead one, and akin as well to the pain of simply being separated by distance and oceans (though with differences in degree, intensity, and other factors.) I wondered why it's so hard to cope with love no longer in relation to an actual, present person--why aren't feelings absolute, but only relative? I can't speak to that yet, but it came to me that 'hey, humans are social animals, primates programed to live in closeknit social groups of around 100-150 people.' Changes in relationships, especially breakups and deaths, mean dramatically reordering our social networks, our packs. This sort of change can make things tough for a small, interdependent group of foragers. So, some of the pain in our existence might be attributed to our evolutionary history, to the ingrained behaviors that have kept (and probably keep) us alive.

Consider, then, a non-human entity (primate or otherwise) capable of forming intellectual and emotional attachments. If it belongs to a more solitary species, it might be quite comfortable with long-distance relationships, feel less distress at loss since it doesn't impinge upon their sense of survival, and even accept the death of a loved one calmly, since their feelings would not have changed, and perhaps wouldn't need to. (which gets back to absolute versus relative feelings.)

Hmm. Perhaps too much game design and trying to imagine non-human individuals and cultures... Well, I have wasted the morning, so off to the library to try and salvage the afternoon.